When your ex meets someone else....

I have a lot of issues in my life, just to warn you readers, but a major issue is the ex husband, otherwise known as ‘The Eel’. The ex husband who is now seeing someone I regarded as a close mutual friend. Bang went that friendship and the other people in our little 'gang'.

I had suspected something had been going on since this time last year, but it was only when he asked her out on a date and she called me up in a panic pretending to care, did alarm bells start ringing. I thought it would be a passing thing, I didn’t realise it would cost me her friendship and that of several others, who after remaining two faced for a while, finally chose the other ‘side’.

I don’t have a problem with them being together, I just do not appreciate being lied to when I knew, as did everyone else, that something had blantantly been going on a while.

The problem I have is that every other weekend when The Eel has our daughter, he spends every waking moment with her and her son. Our daughter (‘O’) has said to me on so many occasions that she would like to ‘just spend time with daddy’, which is like a knife through my heart. He can’t see he is doing anything wrong and thinks O is trying to play us off against each other.

The ex friend, whom I shall refer to as ‘Her’, has been staying over in the week too which I feel uneasy about. O came home from school the other day with a French plait – I cannot do French plaits. Though I should be grateful that she cares about my little girl, I died inside a little bit more.

I know they say it is hard when your ex meets someone new and children are involved, but I just wish he could have gone for someone who didn’t know the ins and outs of my marriage breakdown. Who didn’t hold me when I cried…who didn’t tell me they would always be there for me.